Once the goals for the marriage has been firmly outlined and accepted, there would be some follow up steps that should be taken to ensure the goals set are achieved without eventually contributing to the downfall of the relationship.
What’s In The Way
Making a list of the elements that could be possible contributing factors in not getting the goals achieved would be a wise and preemptive action to initiate. This will give both parties the leeway to be open and frank about their reservations and fears. It will also allow both parties to see each other weakness and strengths and work toward exploring the strengths and limiting the hold that the weaknesses may present.There are several things that would constitute actions that get in the way of achieving the end goals for the marriage.
Some of these may prove to be unfounded and quite easily managed and eradicated, while others may present more of a challenge to the couple. The ones that would be identifies as a challenge should be addressed without reservations to ensure these challenges don’t test the patience of both parties and also to ensure it does not in any way negatively affect the marriage.
Sometimes there is a need to prioritize the items on the list of marriage goals. Failing to do this could create the confusion and stress that could lead to the goals becoming a nightmare rather than a healthy focus for the couple. Being prepared and aware of the necessity to change priorities would also be another thing to consider and work on, as more often than not situations arise unexpectedly that can cause the goals set to become defunct.
Part of the list should be how to handle or address such possibilities.
Develop A Positive Attitude About Getting Help
Part of the growing process within a marriage relationship is to understand and accept the need for positive intervention when things are not going according to plan. Being able to seek such help is pivotal in keeping the marriage of the road to recovery rather than disaster.
The most difficult effort to make would be to not resort to seeking justice for the wronged feelings and experiences. The individual would have to be strong enough and to want the relationship badly enough, to get to the stage where there is a positive attitude in place to help salvage the marriage by getting help.
Bitterness will not help in any way, especially if the individual is interested in keeping a good grasp on the relationship. Despite the hurt and negativity, both parties should ideally try to seek help from professional outside forces that will help to move both parties forward and in a mode where damage control can be initiated.
Trusting that the help sought, will give both parties the opportunity to seek some form of resolve that will help to keep the marriage on the track to mending itself is very important. In most cases the trust issue within relationship is the first thing that becomes a matter of contention for both parties, therefore making the effort to develop a positive attitude to building back the trust is an important step in the right direction.
Forgiveness is another element that needs to be addressed in the process of cultivating a positive attitude. The positive impact of being ready to forgive can and usually does wonders for the failing relationship. A lot of people have attested to the success of salvaging the marriage when the positive element of forgiveness is widely and consciously practiced.